Davexxxx
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This is kind of what some of us were trying to impart to the college student the other day.I think there are two things at work here, and they aren't necessarily the same (though they often travel together).
1) "I'm superior because I bought PRODUCT X." I think a moment of reflection on this reveals it as insecurity and/or the need to belong to a group (of people who like PRODUCT X too much), and while it can be a bit galling, that realization makes it easier to respond with "Sure man, that's pretty cool. Why don't you show it to me?"
2) "I spent a lot of money/time/effort/resource X on PRODUCT X and therefore it MUST be perfect because of my effort to obtain it and my need for it to fulfill a role." I think that this one can be multifaceted in and of itself, but broadly is easier to see through and empathize with.
It took me a long time to realize that people are often a LOT less self-assured than they let on.
When you let things, or your job define you, they can eventually become anchors.
There is nothing wrong with being proud of a possession, or career but like beauty, they can be thin and fleeting.
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